Business Success – Is Being Wrong Holding You Back?
In looking at what is holding people back, a common theme appeared. Worrying about being seen as wrong. It is scary to open up and just put our ideas out there. As children, if those ideas weren’t what our parents/teachers wanted to hear, not only were we not celebrated for our creativity, but often shamed and even ostracized instead. Fear of not being liked, not being accepted for who we are, just as we are, got engrained in our young psyches.
People Pleasing
People pleasing, not making waves, became the norm for many of us. We felt we had to compromise what we felt and parrot what would keep the peace. Little by little, we shut down our innate creative, inventive abilities. People pleasing may keep the peace, but it takes its toll on us. Our joy factor is effected as we don’t express all of who we are. We not only cheat ourselves by not sharing who we really are, but also those around us.
For many, physical health can even be effected. If we keep holding back how we really feel and keep ourselves from sharing our view points, energy can get stuck in the body. An example of how this stuck energy can show up is as a thyroid problem. The thyroid is in the throat area. As several of my female clients who were not speaking up for themselves gained greater self-confidence and began speaking up and appropriately letting people know the truth of how the felt, their thyroids began to heal.
Coping with stuffing how we really feel can show up as over eating and weight gain. As we compromise our beliefs, we shove down our feelings with food. Imagine if we just allowed our thoughts to be expressed. By releasing our control around our fear of being seen as wrong, we can release weight simply and easily. We won’t be weighed down by all we holding back.
Loosing Big Money
As an employee, your company is paying you for your ideas, your ability to come up with solutions, your opinion that will take them forward to greater profit. People pleasing rather than sharing your thoughts and ideas can be costing your company money – big money. I remember a client saying that he knew that the way a committee had decided to do a project was not going work, but he never said anything. He was afraid of taking a stand for his solution. Low and behold, he was right and it cost the company hundreds of thousands of dollars.
3 Tips for Greater Business Success
- Take the Chance of Being Wrong As Long as You are Right for You
The key is to be right for YOU. Remember: What other people think of you, is none of your business. When you know that what you have to share is right for you, you now have you backing you up. Having you be there for you is powerful. As you trust yourself more and more, you will unlock your potential as a creative person. Share what is right for you and all will be right with the world.
- Authentic is Where the Sales are Made
Being present to the possibility that allowing yourself to be wrong is where you can access your open heartedness and tap into your charm. Just openly sharing your ideas and thoughts, being real in the moment is about being authentic. Authentic is what customers are looking for.
- Let the Chips Fall Where They May
It could be your own company or the one you work for, but either way share your ideas! Don’t hold back your solutions. Speak your truth and let the chips fall where they may. When my client I mentioned above began to speak up, three very important things happened. One: the company’s profits grew. Two: he began to be turned to for answers. Three: more and more colleagues befriended him. He went from feeling isolated and alone at work to having meaningful interactions and friends to enjoy activities with after work.
